I help individuals and couples impacted by betrayal trauma understand and work through the complexities of the situation and heal from the wounds that remain.  Within the first three months of therapy couples report feeling an increased sense of safety and regulation within their relationship.  

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Some stats about Infidelity

• Around 20–25% of U.S. married men and 10–15% of married women have reported engaging in extramarital affairs at some point during marriage. Read more >​

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• In dating or non‑married relationships, infidelity rates can reach as high as 70% . Read more >

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• Infidelity plays a role in about 40–50% of divorces, and around 60% of divorced individuals cited infidelity as a contributing factor.

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• Someone is three times more likely to cheat if they have cheated in the past, according to Kayla Knopp in her article titled "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Serial Infidelity Across Subsequent Relationships"

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** There are many more stats about betrayal trauma but these answer the initial questions I get asked most often.  

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Now for the more hopeful stats

• Marriages where infidelity was disclosed have better outcomes: about 57% remain together after 5 years if the affair was admitted; compared to only 20% if it was kept secret. 

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• Therapy is transformative — professional intervention boosts survival and satisfaction rates toward 75% or more. Several studies suggest that a significant proportion of couples choose to stay together after infidelity. Four studies found that 60-75% of couples stay together after discovering an affair (Gordon, Baucom, & Snyder, 2004; Solomon & Teagno, 2006; Stanford, 2008; AAMFT, 2012).

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• The  2012 survey by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) reported that 74% of couples who sought therapy following infidelity were able to recover and rebuild their relationship. (This information was gathered from: https://drkathynickerson.com/blogs/relationship/the-truth-about-affairs-and-cheating-your-top-20-questions-answered-with-research-and-statistics?utm_source)

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​My message to you: 

Healing and allowing yourself to trust again takes time.  From my experience as well as numerous studies it can take between 2–5 years of consistent work to feel completely whole again.  HOWEVER, keep in mind that the pain your feeling right this very minute, the pain that compelled you to browse this website will not be as acute as it is in this moment for the next 2-5 years.   

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​                           ** Healing takes time, but the process can start NOW.

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